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Geen goede moeder niet blije moeder irritant kind deprimerend depressie druk kind deprimerende gedachten moe
Lie or Truth?

You're not a good mother

send that negative thought away
Geen goede moeder niet blije moeder irritant kind deprimerend depressie druk kind deprimerende gedachten moe
Lie or Truth?

You're not a good mother

send that negative thought away
Lie or Truth?

You're not a good mother

send that negative thought away

The lie vs. the truth

This morning, when I was so busy getting ready for the day, a thought suddenly hit me: “You are a bad mother“. While doing breakfast for 2, dressing for 2, and packing my son’s bag for the babysitter, I got more and more grumpy… “I’m a bad mother“, my head buzzed. 

Am I a bad mother? 

While I was so busy, starting to analyze why I would be a bad mom, my head got darker and darker. Am I indeed working too much? Maybe I should take an extra afternoon off? But how would we deal with the finances? 

Isn’t the goal of being a mother mainly to raise your child yourself, instead of taking it to someone else? I started to feel worse and worse about myself. 

Suddenly a bad mood 

Suddenly that thought. Suddenly a bad mood. I fooled myself again. I had taken the thought that I was a bad mother to be true and put it on like a very ticklish wool sweater, the tickle of which slowly but surely turned into pinpricks that pierced my skin. For a moment I was fooled by it. I had enveloped myself in that negative thought. 

Negative thought that comes to mind? My tip: 

That negative thought is not mine! 

My old pattern, back in the day, I believed every thought that came to mind was the truth. I put it on like that nasty sweater, and I kept it on all day. But this morning I decided to take off that sweater, the “I’m-a-bad-mom-sweater”. I realized: That sweater is not mine! 

(Looking for a nice pullover sweater that doesn’t itch? Check out this pullover sweater, completely hip through the winter months.) 

Am I a good mother? 
The truth: Your intention is what matters 

I believe that certain thoughts that come to mind are not your own. These could be words that others have spoken about you. But that does not necessarily mean that they are the truth. The truth is that if you want the best for your child, and always try to do everything with as much love as possible, within the means of the moment, that’s enough! 
Because it is about your intention, and if it is good, then it is good. It’s not about what others or your own negative, judgmental thoughts say about you
. Be aware of that. Only wear what is yours and what is not yours, leave it. 

Send that negative thought away 

Is there a negative thought stuck to you? What helps me is to dismiss the negative thought. I do this in Jesus name (I do this in Jesus name because I believe his name has authority), and goes something like this, out loud, “Thought I’m a bad mother, I’m sending you away, in Jesus name.” 
Are you not a Christian or do you not know what you believe? Then it can still help to dismiss the thought out loud, only then you will leave out the “in Jesus” name part. This can be done like this: “Thought that, I am sending you away because you are not mine!” 

The point is that you become aware of what sticks to you, whether it is yours or not. Wear what is right and fitting for you, and take off (send away) what isn’t yours, or what is not based on love. 

You can do this. 

Love, 

Stella 

P.S. Does that negative thought come to your mind: Well yeah, are you crazy, I’m not going to do that ?!Then there is all the more reason to dismiss the negative thought. Because you would rather go through the day without guilt, than with guilt, right? Just do it when you are alone or quietly on the toilet. You will then give it a place. Say it and throw it away. Out of your head. 

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