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Peace of Mind

"being busy all the time will destroy more than you would like"

Everyone is busy. Whether it is the nature of human beings or something of all times: We are always busy. And that goes at the expense of our peace of Mind. Peace we so desperately need: To recover. To be creative. To be able to flourish in life. Peace of Mind is often hard to find. You will have to actively look for it. How do you do it?

“I still struggle with physical complaints if I don’t give myself enough rest” 

I have experienced that being busy destroys more than you would like. I was always busy, very busy. Until my body said, “STOP!” My neck, shoulders, back, jaw had been stuck for a long time and throbbing with pain. And mentally I was also stuck, in a vortex of racing thoughts. The questions I asked myself every day: “How can I perform even better than yesterday? How can I work even more efficiently? ” I wanted a career, I wanted to flourish! But by paying too little attention to myself, not giving myself enough rest, the pursuit of my dreams took longer. 

For example, I had to recover from burnout caused by persistent stress, this almost took a year. And I still struggle with physical complaints when I don’t give myself enough rest and Peace of Mind 

I don’t wish this on anyone. That’s why I wish you rest, tranquility, and Peace of Mind. Learn from my shortcomings. 

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you deserve

Peace of Mind

"BEING BUSY alL the time WILL DESTROY MORE THAN YOU WOULD LIKE"

Everyone is busy. Whether it is the nature of human beings or something of all times: We are always busy. And that goes at the expense of our peace of Mind. Peace we so desperately need: To recover. To be creative. To be able to flourish in life. Peace of Mind is often hard to find. You will have to actively look for it. How do you do it?

“I still struggle with physical complaints if I don’t give myself enough rest” 

I have experienced that being busy destroys more than you would like. I was always busy, very busy. Until my body said, “STOP!” My neck, shoulders, back, jaw had been stuck for a long time and throbbing with pain. And mentally I was also stuck, in a vortex of racing thoughts. The questions I asked myself every day: “How can I perform even better than yesterday? How can I work even more efficiently? ” I wanted a career, I wanted to flourish! But by paying too little attention to myself, not giving myself enough rest, the pursuit of my dreams took longer. 

For example, I had to recover from burnout caused by persistent stress, this almost took a year. And I still struggle with physical complaints when I don’t give myself enough rest and Peace of Mind 

I don’t wish this on anyone. That’s why I wish you rest, tranquility, and Peace of Mind. Learn from my shortcomings. 

YOU DESERVE

Peace of Mind

"BEING BUSY all the time WILL DESTROY MORE THAN YOU WOULD LIKE"

Everyone is busy. Whether it is the nature of human beings or something of all times: We are always busy. And that goes at the expense of our peace of Mind. Peace we so desperately need: To recover. To be creative. To be able to flourish in life. Peace of Mind is often hard to find. You will have to actively look for it. How do you do it?

“I still struggle with physical complaints if I don’t give myself enough rest” 

I have experienced that being busy destroys more than you would like. I was always busy, very busy. Until my body said, “STOP!” My neck, shoulders, back, jaw had been stuck for a long time and throbbing with pain. And mentally I was also stuck, in a vortex of racing thoughts. The questions I asked myself every day: “How can I perform even better than yesterday? How can I work even more efficiently? ” I wanted a career, I wanted to flourish! But by paying too little attention to myself, not giving myself enough rest, the pursuit of my dreams took longer. 

For example, I had to recover from burnout caused by persistent stress, this almost took a year. And I still struggle with physical complaints when I don’t give myself enough rest and Peace of Mind 

I don’t wish this on anyone. That’s why I wish you rest, tranquility, and Peace of Mind. Learn from my shortcomings. 

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About Peace of Mind

What do you think of when you hear the word Peace of MindPeace of Mind, according to the Dictionary of Cambridge: “a feeling of calm or not being worried “It also mentions: “feeling emotionally ‘more comfortable”

When I think of peace, I think of: Chilling, reading, praying, singing, laughing, writing, walking, cycling in nature; you name it. And what it does to me? It ensures that I can face the day with positive energy again. For example, if I sleep too little, I can no longer put things into perspective and life is suddenly not so much fun at all. So building in moments of rest is essential for me. It has become a lifestyle.   

What does peace mean to you?  

About Peace of Mind

What do you think of when you hear the word Peace of MindPeace of Mind, according to the Dictionary of Cambridge: “a feeling of calm or not being worried “It also mentions: “feeling emotionally ‘more comfortable”

When I think of peace, I think of: Chilling, reading, praying, singing, laughing, writing, walking, cycling in nature; you name it. And what it does to me? It ensures that I can face the day with positive energy again. For example, if I sleep too little, I can no longer put things into perspective and life is suddenly not so much fun at all. So building in moments of rest is essential for me. It has become a lifestyle.   

What does peace mean to you?  

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avoid stress

Build in moments of Peace

Nowadays you can work almost every day if you want to. You can access the internet at any time. At times that you should get some rest, you quickly grab your phone to see if there is anything new. New mail. New likes on your Instagram or Facebook posts. New fashion. News from the world. Perhaps it will relax you, to continuously take in the new. But if I may speak for myself: it often gives me more unrest than peace. In fact, it often stresses me out.  How do you get rid of this 

Relax: Take a short break every hour

In my search for how to get rid of my stress, just during the working day, I came across the following article in NRC (this is a Dutch newspaper) by neuroscientist Dr. Marcia Goddard. In her work, she daily sees the consequences of people who are struggling with stress complaints, and what it does to them. The consequences of stress are countless. You probably know them: headaches, muscle pain, stomach pain, accelerated breathing, but also: inflammation, heart complaints and a reduced libido.  

So every reason to allow as little stress as possible into your life. But how do you do that now, during daily life? 

Go get coffee!

Marcia Goddard argues, quite simply, for the inclusion of micro breaks during your day: “With a break you reset your brain”, she states (that is also the title of the article). Goddard indicates that we humans have an attention span of a maximum of 40 minutes. “Independent of education level and IQ. After that, the brain shifts down a gear and we lose focus, which does not benefit the work. By pausing you reset the brain… Each time a small break that provides the necessary rest in your brain. 
And I (Stella) tested it for a day, and it works! I usually find it annoying to interrupt my work – I prefer to keep on going, but by building in such a micro-break ((getting coffee (not too often of course;), going to the toilet, stretching)) I noticed that afterwards I could continue fresher, while before, sometimes the letters danced across the screen (because I had typed for hours on end).
It also gave me time to think, “What am I actually feeling? What about my breathing? Is it high(squeezes my throat), or low (through my belly)? Can I feel stiff muscles? – Maybe I should stretch and get the circulation going again. “It was precisely during these micro-breaks that I regained insight into how I could do
my work even better.
Reading it
like this, a micro-break doesn’t seem so crazy, right?
In the article, they mainly talk about a working day, but a day off also costs energy (I even get stressed on my days off). 
 

Do you have the same, at the end of your day-off you sometimes think: “So pff, now let’s finally sit down” … and you realize “… eh wasn’t I supposed to be “off” today ??”. Just saying 🙂 

Pause = focus better   

The story continues: “In 2012 a survey was conducted with surgeons, in which the doctors had to make tests after a long operation. Surgeons who took hourly breaks during the operation and did stretching exercises were able to focus better afterwards and made the tests better than their colleagues who had worked continuously. Is it always necessary to take a break, even when you just started working? The answer according to Dr. Goddard: “Yes. You can keep working after the first hour, but you just become less effective. “- Having read this, are you keen on building micro rest moments into your day, or do you prefer to keep working? 

Continue working without a break? Burnout is lurking! 

Dr. Goddard continues: “Where it is especially annoying in the short term because you work less effectively [if you do not take a micro rest moment], there is also a greater long term danger lurking.” She believes skipping breaks is the classic work pattern of people at risk of a burnout. When we work hard, our brains produce substances that make you feel stressed and thus keep you alert. Not bad for a while, but in the long run you put too much strain on the brain. “And this plays a significant role in the development of burnout.” 

You want to prevent stress

So the point is actually that you want to prevent stress. And a big pitfall? Your phone. According to Dr. Goddard it is a hard rule for a good micro break: “Leave your phone when you get up. Just reading your apps, scrolling through your timeline or watching a movie on YouTube does not count as a break for your brain. At such moments you are still busy processing information, that doesn’t stop when you start Facebooking. ” (source: NRC.nl) 

Share your anti-stress tips

It is clear that the micro pause is a proven method. But this is just one of the hundreds of solutions out there to reduce stress. 

My blogs tell you what I, as a stress queen, do about getting that rest, Peace of Mind, and be in control of the stress during the hustle and bustle of every day. And I would like it if you also share your anti-stress tips! This way we help each other to reduce stress in our daily life. 

AVOID STRESS

Build in moments of Peace

Nowadays you can work almost every day if you want to. You can access the internet at any time. At times that you should get some rest, you quickly grab your phone to see if there is anything new. New mail. New likes on your Instagram or Facebook posts. New fashion. News from the world. Perhaps it will relax you, to continuously take in the new. But if I may speak for myself: it often gives me more unrest than peace. In fact, it often stresses me out.  How do you get rid of this 

Relax: Take a short break every hour

In my search for how to get rid of my stress, just during the working day, I came across the following article in NRC (this is a Dutch newspaper) by neuroscientist Dr. Marcia Goddard. In her work, she daily sees the consequences of people who are struggling with stress complaints, and what it does to them. The consequences of stress are countless. You probably know them: headaches, muscle pain, stomach pain, accelerated breathing, but also: inflammation, heart complaints and a reduced libido.  

So every reason to allow as little stress as possible into your life. But how do you do that now, during daily life? 

Go get coffee!

Marcia Goddard argues, quite simply, for the inclusion of micro breaks during your day: “With a break you reset your brain”, she states (that is also the title of the article). Goddard indicates that we humans have an attention span of a maximum of 40 minutes. “Independent of education level and IQ. After that, the brain shifts down a gear and we lose focus, which does not benefit the work. By pausing you reset the brain… Each time a small break that provides the necessary rest in your brain. 
And I (Stella) tested it for a day, and it works! I usually find it annoying to interrupt my work – I prefer to keep on going, but by building in such a micro-break ((getting coffee (not too often of course;), going to the toilet, stretching)) I noticed that afterwards I could continue fresher, while before, sometimes the letters danced across the screen (because I had typed for hours on end).
It also gave me time to think, “What am I actually feeling? What about my breathing? Is it high(squeezes my throat), or low (through my belly)? Can I feel stiff muscles? – Maybe I should stretch and get the circulation going again. “It was precisely during these micro-breaks that I regained insight into how I could do
my work even better.
Reading it
like this, a micro-break doesn’t seem so crazy, right?
In the article, they mainly talk about a working day, but a day off also costs energy (I even get stressed on my days off). 
 

Do you have the same, at the end of your day-off you sometimes think: “So pff, now let’s finally sit down” … and you realize “… eh wasn’t I supposed to be “off” today ??”. Just saying 🙂 

Pause = focus better   

The story continues: “In 2012 a survey was conducted with surgeons, in which the doctors had to make tests after a long operation. Surgeons who took hourly breaks during the operation and did stretching exercises were able to focus better afterwards and made the tests better than their colleagues who had worked continuously. Is it always necessary to take a break, even when you just started working? The answer according to Dr. Goddard: “Yes. You can keep working after the first hour, but you just become less effective. “- Having read this, are you keen on building micro rest moments into your day, or do you prefer to keep working? 

Continue working without a break? Burnout is lurking! 

Dr. Goddard continues: “Where it is especially annoying in the short term because you work less effectively [if you do not take a micro rest moment], there is also a greater long term danger lurking. She believes skipping breaks is the classic work pattern of people at risk of a burnout. When we work hard, our brains produce substances that make you feel stressed and thus keep you alert. Not bad for a while, but in the long run you put too much strain on the brain. “And this plays a significant role in the development of burnout.” 

You want to prevent stress

So the point is actually that you want to prevent stress. And a big pitfall? Your phone. According to Dr. Goddard it is a hard rule for a good micro break: “Leave your phone when you get up. Just reading your apps, scrolling through your timeline or watching a movie on YouTube does not count as a break for your brain. At such moments you are still busy processing information, that doesn’t stop when you start Facebooking. ” (source: NRC.nl) 

Share your anti-stress tips

It is clear that the micro pause is a proven method. But this is just one of the hundreds of solutions out there to reduce stress. 

My blogs tell you what I, as a stress queen, do about getting that rest, Peace of Mind, and be in control of the stress during the hustle and bustle of every day. And I would like it if you also share your anti-stress tips! This way we help each other to reduce stress in our daily life. 

I LOVE LIFE AGAIN!

Stella has spent more than half of her life searching for PEACE, CONFIDENCE and HAPPINESS and she still does this every day. What she learned along the way, through trial and error, she shares with you in her blogs. 

Stella is a happily married mother, lives on the coast and loves writing, going out for diner, traveling abroad and gymnastics. In her spare time she sings (not very good but she enjoys it).

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